To Speak Or Not To Speak...

Ok, so I know I have said I would steer clear from giving advice & being negative, but I can't really help it today. I've got a lot on my mind, something is really bothering me, & I've got to get it out! So maybe we won't call it "advice", let's just say I'm having a little rant session.

I am sick & tired of people who feel the need to say every little thing that comes to their pathetic little minds. I love talking to people, don't get me wrong. I love to hear people's opinions & have debates/discussions, I am just sick of the people who don't have a filter.

Don't know what a filter is? Here's a definition: "An intangible device that determines which thoughts to actually say out loud to another human being."  --Thank you Urban Dictionary. [Please also refer to "Common Sense."]

If you are feeling like your friend isn't looking her best one day, you don't need to blurt it out.

If you think someone's child is ugly, keep it to yourself.

If someone you know just got a haircut & you don't like it, no one needs to hear about it.

If a friend of yours puts on a little weight she's already feeling fat & crappy, so just shut up about it.

If someone you know is balding, they know it, you don't need to point it out.

There are things some people need to know - like when your best friend has some broccoli stuck in her teeth, let her know! When your husband's fly is down, tell him to XYZ. But think before you speak. I cannot stress this enough -- You do not need to say every single thought that comes into your mind.

I've got pretty thick skin, so when some idiot makes a comment about how crappy my hair is looking it doesn't really bother me. I like how I look. My husband likes how I look. That's all that matters. But when someone isn't using their filter & they say something that hurts one of my loved ones; one of my friends, then there is trouble! You don't want the mamma bear to come out, because you will not like what you get.

So for all of those rude people out there lacking common sense, please just shut your mouth. It would be better if you said nothing at all instead of all the filterless crap that comes out.

Oh, one last thing, if while you are reading this you are thinking "Hmm, do I do that? Is she talking about me?" The answer is yes. Those of us who have a filter & use it know we don't say these rude things. So if you are thinking you might be a person who does this, you are - so stop it.